Since you’re here, I think it’s safe to assume that you’re a fan of live sex chats. And I don’t blame you! There’s something intimate and immersive about getting to know your favorite cam girl. But there’s much more to being a live cams’ fan than just logging in and passively participating. It’s all detailed in my Cam User Guide under my 10 etiquette tips.
Before becoming the sex chat professional you’re destined to be, you need to understand a little more about the symbolism and history behind these popular media-sharing platforms. If you’re like me, you remember the ‘90s like it was yesterday. While the first live cam show featured a simple coffee pot, it’s not all that hot. The super sweet stuff was on Jennicam.
In 1996, Jennifer Kaye Ringley decided to start broadcasting her life on a live stream. That meant everything from mundane day-to-day tasks to stripping for the camera and even having full-blown sex for everyone to see. No one else was doing it at the time, so you can imagine how hugely popular her stream was. And that was only the beginning.
Get to Know Your Sex Chat Performers
If you’ve been using cams for a while, you know that every model is different. Different body types, likes and dislikes, work ethics, and ways to engage with their fans. Some of them are more into transactional chats where it’s mostly about requests and living out the sex acts. Others are there to chat about their personal lives and make friends.
Some things you can bank on seeing on pretty much every adult chat site are stats and fun facts about the performers. And this is the best way to get to know them before initiating a chat. They usually have biographies, too. Sometimes they’re written by the actual site, but more often than not, the girl writes it, like on RabbitsCams.
Anyone can type “lemme see your tits,” but it’s not going to get you very far. If a girl says she likes long walks on the beach, eating chocolate, or going shopping, you should chat about your last vacation, your favorite sweet, or a new purchase to pique her interest a bit more. Tips also help, but more on that in a minute.
Expect to Spend Some Cash
Although you may be visiting a site like Chatfly that offers up free nudity and group chats, it doesn’t mean everything is free. The girls are ultimately there to make money. This is their job and like any job, they expect to get paid. Remember, sex work is honest, valid work. Once you have that respectful mindset, chatting becomes easier.
I say easier because it’ll be a lot less frustrating when you’re barking out orders and getting ignored or even banned for it. Hot tip – don’t bark out anything. It may not be explicitly written anywhere, but expect to give a tip if you want to see something specific. There’s no place for disrespectful comments or demands, so be kind and help the girls out.
Avoid Banned or Outdated Chat Speak
In pre-produced porn, you’ll often hear terms like “slut,” “whore,” or other demeaning words. That may be the time and place for it, but live sex chat is not. You may even talk like that in your personal relationships. But the key factor here is consent. When you cross over into that territory, you’d better be sure the person on the receiving end is okay with it.
Now don’t get me wrong. Some performers might enjoy it in their private life or even in some private chat situations. But you should never start chatting by throwing those words around the room. There is other terminology, like “bb,” for example, that you should avoid, too. It’s short for “baby” but can be seen as demeaning or sleazy and could get you booted.
Can you imagine walking up to someone on the street and calling them a bitch? Now think of the reaction you’d get, not to mention the possibility of a slap to the face. It’s better to err on the charming side. Compliment the performer’s glowing smile, her perfectly coiffed hair, or how cute her voice is. Try to avoid commenting on her assets – those not in the know will already do that.
Understand How Teledildonics Work
This is my absolute favorite word in the English language – teledildonics. You may have heard them called smart sex toys. Many of the girls on Camrabbit use them. There are many different brands, like Kiiroo, but most cam girls are using some variation from Lovense.
The way they work is simple. Teledildonics are paired with a girl’s phone or computer through Bluetooth. When someone in the chat sends her a tip, the toy will react and vibrate for an allotted amount of time. It may not be obvious if you’re new to live sex cams, but the more significant the tip, the longer the vibrations, meaning you may be able to give her an orgasm.
This creates a connection between you and the girl on screen, even if only for a short amount of time. But you should avoid sending one token tips over and over again. Sure, the smart sex toy will react, but it won’t really do anything. Plus, this is usually more annoying than doting because it floods the chatbox and, honestly, looks a little needy.
Be Respectful and Know Your Stuff
Just as all performers are different, so are live sex chat users. Some of you may be looking for an intimate connection, while others may just want to watch from the sidelines. The most important things to remember are being respectful, acting with consent, and remembering that sex workers are real people with real feelings.
For more helpful hints on becoming a cam pro, don’t forget to check out my Cam User Guide that I mentioned earlier. The more you follow chat room etiquette, the more likely you will be to get the most out of your camming experiences. And who knows – maybe if you behave, your favorite performer will reach out to you, too!