Something I see too often online is cam girls being spoken to rudely or in a derogatory way. I’ll never quite understand why men think it’s okay to do this. If it’s something that you agreed upon beforehand as part of a show, then fine. But it irks me when I see users immediately start barking orders.
Being a gentleman will earn you respect and notoriety among cam girls – and this is something you want. Being disrespectful and rude is not only counterproductive, but it will also quickly get you banned from a babe’s room. So I’ve created this etiquette guide with ten rules to help you achieve that status quickly and easily.
1. Speak Like a Gentleman
Here’s my opinion on slang – it’s lame, it makes you sound stupid and it’s sabotaging the English language. Perhaps that’s a little harsh, but let’s be honest, how many times a day do you think a cam girl hears “Hey BB, show me ur ass” or “u do anal?” or anything along those lines? You can quickly make yourself stand out in the following ways:
- Say hello (not hey ‘sup?) and introduce yourself.
- Ask her how her day is going.
- Use complete sentences.
- Use proper grammar.
I find it helps to approach meeting a cam girl for the first time in the same way you would a woman on a first date: you want to make an excellent first impression.
2. Continually Engage With Her
It’s called Chaturbate, not Chaturwatch!
In all seriousness, it can be a little frustrating for a cam girl to see someone in her room who isn’t talking or engaging in conversation. If you’re there with the intention to meet girls, you should continually participate in a discussion, even if it’s just small talk. It shows her that you’re interested and she’ll appreciate it.
3. Tip to Get Her Attention
Depending on how many people are in her live room and talking to her, it’s not always easy to get her attention right away. One way to do this is to drop a generous tip. Honestly, the bigger, the better. Just watch how quickly she’ll turn her attention to you!
4. Keep Your Image and Reputation Intact
Like any industry, people know each other. It’s not that different in the world of camming. I’m not saying that all cam girls know each other, but if you mistreat one, you’ll be surprised how quickly word can spread. They have their own chat boards where they share information and help each other out. So build a positive reputation for yourself. The more you engage and interact with them pleasantly, the more they’ll know what to expect from you. Do this enough and you can wander into a girl’s room and have her immediately ignore everyone else in favor of you because she’ll know you’re someone who’s kind, respectful and appreciative of her time. The alternative is getting yourself banned.
5. Look Presentable on Cam
On most sites, you can cam2cam with any performer you want. It lets you both see each other and adds to the experience. So if you decide to use this feature, look as presentable as possible.
- Use a high-quality webcam so that they can see you clearly.
- Be groomed.
- Have your hair done and beard trimmed or shaved.
- Don’t look like a slob; wear clean clothes.
- Keep your posture straight; don’t slouch.
Again, I’m going back to the “going on a date” analogy here, but would you show up to your date unshaved and unshowered? Of course not, so don’t do it when you’re camming, either – unless that’s your everyday look!
6. Budget For Chit-Chat When Going Private
Setting the mood during a private show is essential. One of the ways you do this is by having a little chat before the nudity and sex starts. Look at it as foreplay. She might want to hear about your deepest sexual desires while she slowly strips, flirts with you and maybe even dances a little, so make sure to budget a couple of extra minutes for this. It heightens the arousal between you two and ensures that when you do get down to business, you’ll both be primed and ready for an incredibly erotic cam sex experience.
7. Show Her Respect
Simple, right? Let’s keep this rule short and to the point. Be respectful and ease into the dirty talk. Don’t just enter her room and start talking like a horny trucker. She’s not an object or an escort. These are real people. Treat them accordingly.
8. Be in the Moment
If you’re going to spend time connecting and chatting with hotties from around the world, make sure it’s the ONLY thing you’re doing. If you’re doing several things at once, they’ll notice when your attention inevitably wavers. Cam girls want to feel like they’re worth your time and there’s no bigger turn-off than for them to feel a strong connection with someone, only to have the person stop talking or walk away from their webcam. If you are going to do that, at the very least, tell her you have to step away for a bit, but that you’ll return shortly.
9. Address Her by Her Name
Most performers use a pseudonym, but sometimes you can find out their real name by clicking on their profile. If they list it, then you should address them by their name whenever you speak to them. They’ll appreciate your efforts, especially if you plan on spending any prolonged amount of time with them.
10. Say Goodbye When You Leave
This is another incredibly obvious point, but one I MUST make because it happens too often. In fact, many cam girls would say that this is their biggest pet peeve. Imagine being in the middle of a stimulating sex cam show, only to have someone vanish without saying goodbye. This might be one of the most disrespectful things you can do and she’ll remember it. If you’re in private chat, say goodbye before the show ends, not when you’re back in free chat. Also, you should give her a chance to say goodbye to you, too. Of course, accidents happen. You can lose your internet connection or accidentally hit the cancel button. At the very least, you should apologize and explain yourself.
Need some more advice, or think there’s something I should add to this list? Send me an email and let me know!